He said we cannot simply look at an individual to see why they are not thriving. I liked his analogy. Take a fish. When you take the fish out of water it will start flopping around and struggle. We can start CPR and get medicines to stop the seizures but it won't help the fish. Instead of working with the fish, we should look at the surroundings. What might be different in the surroundings influencing the behavior of the fish. Nothing will stop the fish from flopping until the environment becomes the environment a fish can thrive in. It needs water. We human beings are the same. If we don't thrive we need to look at the surroundings. What is different, what keeps us from thriving. We are social beings, we need uplifting social interactions in order to thrive. Does a dysfunctional family of the MEM provide an environment to support thriving? I hardly think so. It is perfectly fine to refuse to go to such an environment where we are fish out of water because we don't know how to play the cruel mind games and how to keep complete control all disguised in care and love. A MEM family is not an uplifting environment and it is best to stay away from it. Far away.
Again I was listening to a CD my sister mailed me. This psychologist talked about how human beings are social people. We need positive social contacts in order to thrive.
He said we cannot simply look at an individual to see why they are not thriving. I liked his analogy. Take a fish. When you take the fish out of water it will start flopping around and struggle. We can start CPR and get medicines to stop the seizures but it won't help the fish. Instead of working with the fish, we should look at the surroundings. What might be different in the surroundings influencing the behavior of the fish. Nothing will stop the fish from flopping until the environment becomes the environment a fish can thrive in. It needs water. We human beings are the same. If we don't thrive we need to look at the surroundings. What is different, what keeps us from thriving. We are social beings, we need uplifting social interactions in order to thrive. Does a dysfunctional family of the MEM provide an environment to support thriving? I hardly think so. It is perfectly fine to refuse to go to such an environment where we are fish out of water because we don't know how to play the cruel mind games and how to keep complete control all disguised in care and love. A MEM family is not an uplifting environment and it is best to stay away from it. Far away.
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