It states: “Princess Diana wanted to call her wedding off after Prince Charles told her he "didn't love her" the night before their nuptials, according to an explosive new documentary. Astrologer Penny Thornton, who had regular contact with Diana, dropped the bomb during an appearance on the ITV documentary "The Diana Interview: Revenge of a Princess," which aired Monday night.
"One of the most shocking things that Diana told me was that the night before the wedding Charles told her that he didn't love her," Thornton said, as reported by Newsweek.
"I think Charles didn't want to go into the wedding on a false premise. He wanted to square it with her and it was devastating for Diana. She didn't want to go through with the wedding at that point, she thought about not attending the wedding," Thornton added.
Up to this day I did not see any similarities between a relationship with a MEM and the people princess of Wales, Lady Diana Spencer. The Royal family of England is as dysfunctional as they come. Prince Charles needed a heir and he was getting older. He picked a young girl he could control. A girl who was naïve and inexperienced. She became part of the dysfunction and was supposed to support the dysfunctional family system, not speak out against it. Prince Charles was honest when he said he did not love her. Most MEM are not as honest right away although it becomes clear over time that they do not love their partner, their love, or what they call love, belongs to the mother. In Prince Charles case it belong to Camilla, a married woman whom he continued an intimate relationship with over the years. As Princess Diana so famously said in an interview with Martin Bashir of BBC after being asked if Camilla Parker Bowels played a part in her getting a divorce from Prince Charles: "Well, there were three of us in this marriage, so it was a bit crowded,"
The Royal family expected Diana to play along. To fit into the dysfunctional dynamic and pretend all is well. Dr. Colthurst, who was a friend of Diana said, "I remember she was becoming more and more incensed by what was going on and the fact that the whole organization, as she saw it, was helping to support the relationship between Camilla and Prince Charles. She would have moments of extreme anger and wanting to bash the mattress with the tennis racket and that kind of thing, and I said: Well, I think there are ways of lancing the abscess.”
Lancing the abscess was, they arranged for the media to get involved and Diana was able to tell some of her story to the world, to be finally speaking truths. It is healing to speak truths. She had a long ways to go to find healing because of the public figure she was and the severe emotional and psychological abuse she suffered from her husband and his family, however, I don't believe she found healing before her live on earth was cut short by the car accident.
I hadn't thought of her being in a situation like all partners of MEM. Prince Charles was not emotionally available. His devotion was to Camilla. The family supported it. The family wanted Diana to be quiet about it, to support it as well, to not have needs nor question what is going on. They wanted complete obedience to dysfunction. She was only tolerated and only if she obeyed and pretended all was well.
How many partners of MEM's go through the same? Realize the MEM partner does not love them. Always feel excluded from the family, are expected to act a certain way, forced to support MEM and mother in their relationship rather than speaking out and questioning the sick relationship as to what it is, and so on. A MEM spouse is the enemy of the family they have to tolerate to some extend but only if the MEM partner plays along. As soon as questions are raised the MEM partner is openly attacked as was Diana by the Royal family. Her mental health was questioned and her motives were questioned to sow doubt in people's mind that it is Diana who is crazy, not the Royal family. It all sounded so familiar. Enmeshment in any way with a dysfunctional family is the poison to women who are gentle, kind, generous, and want to help and fit in. Women who are looking for a loving relationship where they are the priority as they make their partner the priority in their lives. Waking up to the fact that they were never loved from the beginning and that there are three in the relationship and it is too crowded is a painful experience that takes a long time to heal.