I got into an argument with his narcissist father, who is 100% narcissist, and I told him off. His father was furious and yelled at me all sorts of things. I remember being totally calm, I knew the guy was evil and I walked out of his house. My MEM stayed back and apologized for me. When he got to the car and told me I was furious. I told him I meant what I said and he has no right to pretend I meant otherwise. He still felt justified to apologize because it was his father. It would take years for him to realize I was right all along, his father is evil. An ugly evil old man who cares about nobody but himself.
He did that numerous times with customers. We have an online business and we work with customers. I remember one customer in particular, complaining about something and I fix it and wrote God Bless on the bottom. That set them off and they went on and on about how I am pushing religion on them and that was against the law, etc. They actually tried to convince me they were lawyers but by their bad spelling and inarticulate use of the language I was positive they were neither lawyers nor had any knowledge of the law. My MEM felt it important to apologize for me. Again I meant what I had said, I did not need or want anybody getting into the conversation I was having. I was polite and nice to them, just stated my believes, nothing rude but he felt he needed to treat me like a child who doesn't know how to express themselves properly.
The list goes on. I realized, when all these experiences came back to me, that a MEM is a coward. He will hide behind a strong partner but think of himself a hero. Will be scared by anybody barking at them and back off whatever their intention but with a partner they feel strong and bold and will abuse in all forms. The power-over feeling, the only place in life they feel they have power it seems is in their relationship with a partner which they systemically destroy by their actions until nothing is left.