Mems are void of feelings because of them being conditioned to only take care of mom and recognize her feelings but not their own. Mems have to suppress their feelings from an early age. The only thing that matters it to keep mom happy at the expense of ones own happiness and joy in life. Mom's emotions are top priority.
When emotions and feelings are suppressed a person often becomes a narcissist thinking only his or her feelings matter or they hold on to inanimate objects to have the illusion of having some control in their lives. Inanimate objects can be controlled. Most often that inanimate object is something of value, something others might envy, and more often than not it is money. Money can be controlled. It is also something that is highly recognizable and the more you have the better a mem feels about themselves. Working hard it one way to forget feelings and have a purpose. MEMs often work overtime and love the money that comes in. They are greedy with everybody but mom.
I remember days when I spent $1 on something and my MEM would freak. He would tell me we don't have the money for it and to take it back but he'd be perfectly fine buying something well over $1 for himself or his mother. Money became a way to control his surroundings. There is never enough. He does not believe there is enough and he works to collect more. It really is a form of control, an illusion that he can control life by controlling his income. With that income he can control some of his surroundings. Any partner can be controlled, children can be controlled, friends can be controlled, housing can be controlled, food can be controlled, lots of control if you have money and hold on to your money and you are the only person who has control over your money.
Mem will often establish a household fund for their spouse. A certain amount and not a penny more. Often on the lean side already. One of my friend's ex-MEM controlled her tightly with money to the point she couldn't even buy used clothing for her children. It became a way to torture his wife. She didn't have Internet, only on his phone when he was home and he didn't like her using his phone. Hence she had no email or social media contact with anybody. Money helped him control his wife and children under the disguise of not ever having enough money. No matter that he was a successful chiropractor. Highly mother enmeshed his control laid in money, as is often the case among mem.
For a mem money is not a way to make a living to enjoy life with a significant other or raising a family, it is a way to control his surroundings and to be in charge. To finally be in charge of something that mother can be proud of.