Mem seem to know no true happiness or sadness. They experience anger, lots of it, but really don't know how to laugh and be silly, just happy. They cannot emphasize with others or connect with other's brain waves to feel the happiness around them. They are closed off to the happiness in the world. The only emotion they feel is anger and it comes easy. Why is that? Anger is always a secondary emotion. Any emotion from the partner can easily set off the anger. Be it sadness, happiness, grief, joy, anything. A MEM cannot stand emotions. To sit with their own emotions may bring questions. Might lead them away from all they heard all theirs lives. Just to sit and feel. Impossible for a mem. I believe their primary emotions are sadness, abandonment, grief, loneliness, feeling insignificant, all emotions that have been stuck from infancy. Anytime someone else shows these emotions, a mem can't mirror them, it triggers those penned up emotions deep down and because a mem is not able to face them he simply gets angry. And a mem partner is the recipient of the anger as secondary emotion.
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