She replied with a lie that she has never done that and that I am accusing her of things that are not true. Mind you, this was the first direct mail in about 15 years. She must be getting desperate to regain control of her mem. I guess she didn't think I had access to my daughter's email and would never know the truths. I wrote back and said that I read her emails and she is not being truthful. You can guess her next step, being the victim, this is what I got back.
It just seems that no matter what I say or do you look to find something wrong. I am
sorry about that and do my best to respect your wishes. Just seems sad
to me that I can't have a normal relationship with your family,
especially my grandchildren.
I wasn't sure if I should laugh or be angry at her twisting how things really are. She in no way ever respected my wishes, if I didn't constantly insist on boundaries there wouldn't be boundaries. I constantly have to push back and remind her of her place. Her grandchildren were never important to her. I was reminded of a time when we still had to visit every other weekend practically and my MEM was brainwashed blind. Our 2 year old daughter was exploring in the house and happen to set off a mouse trap. A wicked snapper. I was terrified, she started to cry and I thought it chopped her finger off. My Mems mother laughed hysterically over it. She didn't even know then if my daughter was hurt or not, I had never seen her laugh like that. I don't know what is going on in her twisted sick mind but it surely isn't a desire to be a loving grandmother. The only desire I have ever seen was to control her mem, to have him worship her with everything he does.
What a twisted reality she lives in, every mem mother lives in. Every mem mother has her own reality that is completely dysfunctional, twisted, and evil but they truly believe themselves to be some kind of Saint. They truly believe the mem's partner is the evil one and needs to be eradicated. There is nothing that will change a MEM mothers mind or heart. They are completely blind to reality and will not ever change. They are set in their ways and refuse to see what really is. MEM mother's are hopelessly dysfunctional for their entire lives. The only way to protect ourselves and our children is by having no contact, keeping strict boundaries and making sure we don't allow the crossing of those boundaries. No matter how long ago the boundaries were set in place, the mem mother will always try to push the boundaries and never give up until the day she dies, which in all cases can't come soon enough.